Becky Hands Appeal

Becks was always a determined person with a very strong character. She achieved from School and went onto College and then University.
Whilst in her teens she was very sporty, she played football for her local town team and tried her hand at kick boxing too. She was very talented in all aspects from sport to music, she played the drums and piano and just before she was learning how to play the guitar.

She was a quiet watcher of people until she got to know them. She would stand back and watch, take everything in and then she would be a true friend. Although I must say, to her friends she was quite the opposite. That makes me laugh because Becks never thought I knew that at the time until I told her. She didn't drink or smoke, however, I do know that she would have fun when she went out with her friends. But she was more for her career and knuckled under with her studies.
Becks wanted to be a film director and I do honestly believe that she would have succeeded in that.
When she was at College she had a paper round and we laugh about it now when we think about that. We can see her head popping around the bedroom door after she had knocked on it. She would say in her quiet spoken voice, "Col, it's raining and windy out there". Then Col would reply, "Be two minutes Becks". Then the two of them would go and do the paper round in the car. They both used to call me hard, because I would have this thing about her being independent and that she should go do the round in the rain. I used to say to her that I had to when I was her age. Those memories change the bitter ones into sweet.

Becks took 12mths out from college and had a job at MacDonalds. We had this thing between us because we always called it Macker Dees (said how it is spelt). We bought a car for her to learn to drive in and she paid for her own insurance. She was always like that, always had to do it herself. When she drove she was so natural, she took to driving like a fish to water. I know I shouldn't say it but when she went to work she would go in the car sometimes. I didn't sleep until she got home but knew that she would be fine. The only thing that bothered us was the theory test! Why did she never pass? She attained nine A's at School, A's & B's at College to get her into University yet could not pass her theory test. We do know why now and are just glad that she had a chance to drive her own car for a short period of time.

She loved that job at Macker Dees and eventually went to live with some of her friends from work. Her first house share and enjoyed her life, on her day off she would catch the bus and come and visit us. Then the two of us would go to rent a DVD of her choice, Becks knew what was good or not.
Then it was time to go to University at Aber and get studying. She always did well and I never once doubted her ability, she had it all that girl!
During her Uni days she got other jobs working in cafes to make ends meet. Becks had always been a fighter and this she did well. This was her character, if she be-friend ed you then that was for life.
Becks had completed her first year and did well so was on her second year at Uni. However, for several months she had been complaining of pain in her shoulder. She had visited the student doctors too on several occasions and was told that she had a trapped nerve. This went on for over twelve months. No X-rays were ordered although she was sent to physio and told to swim. This in itself made her very tired and she kept saying that she was sleeping most of the time. I kept insisting to her to get a second opinion but as all parents know, children don't listen to us at times. That never happened!

End of October 2005 I received a phone call informing me that my Becks was in Hospital due to pain in her back and that she couldn't breath properly.

Yes she had Cancer! Although they could not find out where the primary was and because she had had this for twelve months. Apparently we were told that it was a slow growing Cancer.

I knew as a mother there and then that my daughter was not going to survive this! I can not explain how I knew.The feeling was so strong. Maybe I was being prepared for that outcome? I will never know.